When you live with neighbors who share walls, you have to be aware that there may be times when you will experience noise. Noisy upstairs neighbors can be no big deal — unless it’s late at night or you’re at home trying to work. Then it can be a major problem.
In fact, sometimes it seems like they may be intentionally making noise just to mess with you, as this parody video humorously illustrates:
Joking aside, it can be a very frustrating experience. You expect to be able to have some peace and quiet within the comfort of your home, but unfortunately, due to some noisy neighbors, you fell behind on some work or lost some hours while trying to sleep.
So, just what exactly is the best way to deal with these loud neighbors?
Here are three strategies for dealing with neighbors — we’ll talk about which ones work best and which are best to avoid.
Even if you try your hardest not to come off as a little snarky or irritated, your note will still come off as passive-aggressive. It’s not your fault, it’s just how we tend to read these types of notes. No exclamation points and you come off as mad. Too many and you come off as condescending. It’s a lose-lose.
When it comes to sliding notes under the noisy upstairs neighbors door, it’s best to just avoid that strategy altogether, unless you don’t mind potentially upsetting the neighbors, even if they are in the wrong.
The next solution would be to get a landlord or management involved.
This is certainly a step-up from simply writing a note that can easily be misconstrued. Now, if it is your neighbors first or second offense, then getting management involved may a bit extreme. If this is the case, then you’re getting your neighbors in trouble before they even have a chance to remedy the situation.
However, if it is a repeated habit, where every weekend they are blaring music into the wee hours of the morning or vacuuming at 6 am on a Saturday, then talking to a landlord or management is certainly justifiable.
Not everyone is comfortable speaking up, especially with people you may not know very well. However, this is the best method for dealing with a loud neighbor.
You’ll get a better response from the neighbor because you can show that you aren’t upset or being passive-aggressive, but can just politely have a conversation. Who knows, you may end up making a new friend out of the situation!
Odds are, they will completely understand where you’re coming from. No one wants to deal with unwanted noise pollution and once your neighbors realize they are guilty of just that, they will likely work towards making sure it doesn’t happen again.
It’s likely that your noisy upstairs neighbors didn’t realize that they were being loud, so it’s wise to ask yourself if you may be inadvertently making too much noise yourself.
The key to living in an apartment community is to understand that you are part of just that: a community. In order for a community to thrive, you have to be respectful of everyone around you. Make sure you’re always considerate of those around you.